Gaslighting is 'a process of emotional abuse whereby a person's reality and reality in general is denied,' Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist who has appeared with Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith on the Red Table Talk show, told Newsweek back in March. A post about a woman whose 'gaslighting' partner has been hiding a gambling problem from her has gone viral on Mumsnet. A stock image shows a couple turned away from each other on a couch.